Love and Infatuation

"I love you" is a very common phrase used by youth to express their feelings to someone. It is often said by a boy to a girl because she is beautiful or similarly by a girl to a boy because he is handsome. However, their expression of words mostly doesn't reflect their actual feelings because they misperceive their infatuation for a particular person with love. This happens because many people have misconception about love and infatuation. Although there are few similarities between them but they are different in many other ways. Love and infatuation can be compared and contrasted on the basis of their roots, motivated feelings and affects on the relationship.

Firstly, love is different from infatuation in terms of its roots. Love is blind and it doesn’t affect by physical attraction or look. Its only based upon an intense of affection for another person and therefore, often called as interpersonal love. Whereas, infatuation is an wasteful passion and its purely based upon physical appearance, beauty and glamour. Other than that the root of love is a feeling of comfort and trust that gives happiness to a person whereas in infatuation, a sexual desire is at the peak to get pleasure.

Secondly, feelings inspired by love is also different from infatuation. Love gives the feeling of security. It makes the person feel that there is someone who cares and loves him. The absence of the person will never make you restless and you might feel doubtful about the commitment in the relationship. Other than that, love is related with a strong bonding between the souls that is beyond the self. Person in love will always think about the interest of opposite person whereas, infatuation may make the person selfish. He may become angry if the opposite person doesn’t fulfill his demand.

Finally, they are different in the way they have affect on the relations between the couple. Pure love between two people can develop into long term commitment and relation goes until marriage. Marriage would be the happiest result in the life of the person fall in love. On other hand, infatuation doesn’t make one feel committed to other person and the person will never think to marry that other person. Other than that, the effect of time and separation in love relations also differs from infatuation. Relations in love become stronger with time whereas infatuation weakens the relationship with time. Although, separation in both emotions causes pain but infatuation may get weak and reduces the feelings over time.